Defining your values

January 8, 2014 in January 2014, Motivation, The road so far

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Since embarking on this process, I have learned that it is going to require much time, effort and obviously, some money to change my life and set up businesses enabling me to live ‘my wifi life’.

That thing called Christmas also took a lot of all of those. As such, it’s been a while since posting my first blog.

In the mean time, I have dedicated my evenings and weekends to technical set up stuff (like this website – which is not as pretty as I’d like but a work in progress) absorbing a huge amount of information, training videos, attending webinars and reading a LOT. Sometimes via audiobook en route to work – got to love multitasking. There is certainly no shortage of value provided with the SFM’s system so far.

Learning new skills and training a mindset is definitely a stimulating experience despite overwhelm setting in several on occasions. Laptop has so far survived several temptations to be thrown at wall.

Oh, and this was my dinner last night. Oops.

A perfectly acceptable dinner when spending an evening learning how to build a website.

A perfectly acceptable dinner when spending an evening learning how to build a website.

Our mentors have set a 90-day challenge. To reach a goal, one must have a plan. Fail to plan, plan to fail. Understood. We are to spend the next 90-days living and breathing all elements of a life and business ‘blueprint’. One element being to decide how you intend to conduct yourself in building your new business. And generally in life.

Right, here we go. I have a habit for writing at length once I get on a roll… a habit that needs addressing for future blog purposes. So, settle in.

So, ladies and gentlemen. Amy Taylor’s values for 2014’s undertakings thus far include, but are by no means limited to…

Honesty. I’ve learned over time that you don’t always need to vocalise your opinions…there have been times when I’ve found myself with foot royally in mouth! I’d never set out to intentionally upset someone, but if asked for my thoughts, I won’t lie. It’s a waste of time and that of whoever may have asked for it. Most people also cannot read minds. So if you don’t say it, they won’t know it.

It’s a double-edged sword. It has probably lost me friends in the past and put some off becoming friends in the future. But it’s also made sure that the ones who stick around are worth the risk. I do also enjoy stirring up a good (light-hearted) debate!

Transparency – be yourself. Life’s too short to be anything else so don’t waste it by being false or having some hidden agenda. I’ve learnt you can’t please everyone. If someone goes out of their way to negatively comment on something personal or insult you in any way, chances are they’re doing it to plenty of others too. So it’s not really significant in the grand scheme of things.

An extension of the all of the above therefore encompasses being honest with MYSELF. Some of the best decisions we make in life are no doubt going to be the hardest to come to…

Reciprocity. (‘Give and take’ for those who accuse me of using big words unnecessarily!) Don’t expect it, but don’t get taken advantage of. If you’re giving a certain amount of your energy, time, life or any other element of yourself to someone or something, at some point there needs to be some return on investment. And yes, that applies also to money/business – hence the terminology! I intend re-evaluate across the board regularly.

The only exception to this I would say is the relationship between parents and their children, there certainly never seems to be any expectation in return for all mine have provided and given me. Equally, giving back to my parents is a major driving force behind the goals and aspirations for improving my life so maybe it does apply in its own way as life naturally unfolds…

Humility. Not always fun but usually for the best once you learn to master the art of admitting when you’re wrong. Let’s just try to approach both life’s challenges and its rewards with class and decorum wherever possible, shall we?!

Humour. Don’t take yourself or life too seriously. I take my happiness seriously, I will be taking my goals seriously. But I’ll be trying to do it all with a sense of humour. If you can’t laugh at yourself, it’s tough to move on when you screw up – I have before and am sure I will again!

Karma. Sometimes known as the ‘law of attraction’. The good, the bad and the ugly. If you put it out there, you’ll get it back. I have experienced all three. It happens! And the bite on the arse when it does, hurts.

Positivity. If you are reading this using an internet connection, your glass is at least half full. If you think it’s half empty, watch the news. Life ebbs and flows for everyone. You’re allowed to have bad days and you’re allowed to have a rant about it now and again. But have faith that whatever it is that’s got you down, it WILL pass one way or another. Those old clichés of “everything happens for a reason” and “what’s for you won’t go by you” are good reasoning if you need pulling out of a rut. Opportunities do seem to come along and find you when you’re ready for them. You may not know it at the time, but you’ll eventually find yourself musing, “oh, THAT’s why that happened…”

If you want it a little fuller – decide what you want, take responsibility and find out how you can have it. Take ACTION.

I’ll let you know how it works out for me. In the mean time, I’d love to hear yours.

Over and out.

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